Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Let me begin by saying that I will never specifically gender police anyone. I believe everyone has the right to call themselves whatever they wish and do whatever they wish. So long as it doesn’t hurt others, of course. And there is where my issue with “trans-trenders” lies. I did not coin the term. Nor do I use it regularly. But yes, I am concerned that these people may be taking some legitimacy out of my own trans experience. My biggest fear, however, is being lumped in with them.

I am still on the fence about top surgery. I have absolutely no intent to undergo genital surgery. I miss being androgynous. I like being a little bit femme on occasion. Do these truths make me less trans than others? Less a man? I surely hope not. Just because I am not crippled by dysphoria when I am naked does not mean that I like what I see. And just because I enjoy vaginal penetration doesn’t mean I am a woman.

People need to be less preoccupied with others. Their journeys are their own. Let everyone live as they will and go on your way.

1 comment:

  1. This is kind of puzzling to think about. On the one hand, people should be free to do with their bodies whatever they choose, as long as it doesn't harm others. On the other "trans-trenders" can affect those with a legitimate desire, or need, to be trans by making it harder for them to be taken seriously. I don't know anything about "requirements" to get a testosterone prescription or top surgery, but I would hope that it's something that people really think through.