Let me begin by saying that I will never specifically gender police anyone. I believe everyone has the right to call themselves whatever they wish and do whatever they wish. So long as it doesn’t hurt others, of course. And there is where my issue with “trans-trenders” lies. I did not coin the term. Nor do I use it regularly. But yes, I am concerned that these people may be taking some legitimacy out of my own trans experience. My biggest fear, however, is being lumped in with them.
I am still on the fence about top surgery. I have absolutely no
intent to undergo genital surgery. I miss being androgynous. I like
being a little bit femme on occasion. Do these truths make me less trans
than others? Less a man? I surely hope not. Just because I am not
crippled by dysphoria when I am naked does not mean that I like what I
see. And just because I enjoy vaginal penetration doesn’t mean I am a
People need to be less preoccupied with others. Their journeys are
their own. Let everyone live as they will and go on your way.